The unimaginable has happened; you are a widow or widower. Mourning your loss has been the focus of your life for the past year or two. Finally, as you begin to surface from your profound grief, with a deep breath and lot or a little trepidation you find yourself falling in love again. Is this new relationship fraught with landmines? You bet! Here are important stepping stones to help keep you afloat along the way, Do’s and Don’ts as it were for widows/widowers beginning a new, loving relationship.

Perhaps you joined a bereavement support group, progressed through the stages of loss and are doing pretty well. And then, surprise … you find yourself attracted to someone of the opposite sex. Not just someone to hear your grief, but someone who makes your heart quicken. What to do? What feels right? You are still grieving, but you’re attracted and you want to date, you’re also lonely and crave company. And yet, you feel guilty, disloyal to your late spouse.

There was someone I used to work with who, well aware of their tendency to look at the negative side of things, used to constantly tell themselves to "think more positively".

This was said with such a feeling of desperation that I just knew that not only would they NOT think positively, they
would probably go even further into negative thinking. The mere fact that they kept pushing themselves to "think
positively" was a sign that this would ultimately be counterproductive.

Research indicates that over 55% of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. In my 35 years of counseling couples, I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire - it’s that they are not interested in sex with their partner.

There is a very good reason for this.

Sexuality in long term relationships is the result of loving energy flowing between two people. If something is blocking this loving energy, the sexual energy between them often gets blocked as well.

There may be many reasons for loving and sexual energy being blocked, but the most common is what I call the “pull-resist relationship system.”

Here’s how it works:

First off..

I’d like to wish a very special Happy Valentines Day to all the Lovely Ladies I know who read and enjoy this blog.

You know who you are and you certainly deserve all the Romance, Love and Joy in the world.  :)

I’ve been working on a pretty cool project in this part of the world that will be a good business and networking opportunity for a willing investor.

I can’t go into the details of what this project is on an open forum like this but there is a great deal of potential upside for someone who is searching for a way to either live over here or to get personalized long term support from myself in finding the lady of their dreams.

So, it's a little late you want, but at least I remembered it correctly?

In any case, ladies and gentlemen, we have officially passed 1 year mark for this blog. Do not know what to expect when we all started in this adventure, but it was a hell of ride so far and a lot of fun sharing experiences I had with this incredible Russian women.

Again I want to deeply thank you all for your support and participation.

Although I am happy in the midst of beginning a new life and family, I want to tell you that there are some really great events coming up on the horizon.

Look at the following article from CNN.

    (CNN) - Looking for Love This Valentine's Day? Make sure the arrow of Cupid does not hit your wallet.

    That's exactly what happened to Kim Kossie, a woman in Houston, Texas. Kossie joined an online Christian dating site after a friend recommended it. She thought she met the man of her dreams ... an artist from London.

    "He sent these wonderful pictures. This guy was quoting scripture. We prayed every day," she says. "It was almost like a dream guy."

    They talked on the phone several times a day, every day. It was interesting. He gave great advice. He was even should visit his parents in Houston. But then he started asking for money, with promises to pay for it. After two months, Kossie wired him a total of $ 2.000. Not to mention the phone bill she was stuck with for $ 1500. Until now she had not seen him - or her money.

    And, unfortunately, Kossie is not alone. Complaints about the mediation services and Internet dating sites at an all time high on the report of February from Better Business Bureau. In fact, complaints have risen 73 percent in 2006 from the previous year. This year's complaints towards record levels.

I just came across this article from the New York Post about the stunning Russian supermodel Ruslana Korshunova name from Almaty, Kazakhstan.

MODEL SUICIDE
    KAZAKH BEAUTY transition to death in financial district
    JANE Melissa Kronfeld, T. DELIGIANNAKIS and Tom Liddy

    A stunning supermodel leaped from her swank apartment in the city for her death today in the apparent suicide, officials said.

Well go ahead and read the article and then check out my comment below.

    Why Russia to wealthy women are still reluctant to go Dutch

    By Shaun Walker in Moscow
    Wednesday, July 2, 2008

"What are you doing here?"

Christina excitement can not be contained as she jumped over the counter ticket LAX and hugged me with delirious mixture of surprise and hidden expectations.

She was still on duty, but to call her friend in the back office quickly rectify it.

I was only 3 hour layover, but after a few minutes we were at the local Denny's with two 7am Slam events are delivered to our booth.