Feminist playwright Zoe Lewis decided to confront the bitter truth about his life as a feminist inspired.

Of course, I respect her courage in coming out and condemning the self-destructive cultural norms she was lead to believe

But part of me wonders how many relationships she personally threw under the bus to her age caught up with her and the men finally stopped coming round?

What is the future, every woman, so look forward to when they ignore the special challenge Mother Nature, and then simply not enough time?

Well let's just hope that a few young women out there you can read her story and better understand their own way, that they should choose.

Oh, and one very important thing the ladies ..

Never underestimate the power that self-destructive feminist propaganda, as MTV, TV shows, and news is more than his life.

    Madonna's syndrome:

    I would love to cast feminism, children and baking

    The playwright, who embraced feminism, supported her mother and sported a Madonna now feels betrayed

    Zoe Lewis

I never thought I'd say this, but being a free woman is not all it's cracked up to be.

Is that the rustle of taffeta, I hear Suffragettes turn in their graves? Maybe. My mother was a hippie who was holding a bunch of (dusty) books Germaine Greer and Erica Jong by her bed (as any good feminist, she does not understand why she should do, cleaning). It is imbued me with the great values ​​of choice, equality and sexual liberation. I struggled with my older brother, and won, at the university I was hitting guys in the rugby drinking games. I should not be confused with.

Now, almost 37, the same values, leave me feeling cold. I want to love children, but they were nowhere to be seen. I feel that the UN inspectors sent to Iraq and found that there was never any weapons of mass destruction. I was led to believe that women can have "everything" and, more importantly, we want it all. To this end, I spent 20 years relentlessly pursuing their dream - to be a successful playwright.

I donated all the womanly duties and put it all on the altar of career.

And was it worth it?

The answer should be no loud.

Ten years ago, fled Times article about my paradise syndrome play. It was based on my friends in the music business. All we did was party, drink and work. Play sold out, and I thought, 'That's it, I'll have it all: success, power, and men are going to love me for it, "In fact, it was the beginning of many years of hard slog, the rejection letters and those living in poverty .. Decade, I wrote a follow-play Touched for the very first time, in which Leslie played by Sadie Frost, the normal 14-year-old from Manchester, who falls in love with Madonna in 1984 after listening to songs like Mary. She follows her religious icon for many years as Madonna sells his ultimate dream ". You can do anything - be anything - Go Girl"

Leslie finds, along with Madonna, which attempts to "have it all" a huge gamble. I wrote a play, because many of my friends have been inspired by this woman bull, which allowed us to be strong and sexy. I still love her and always will be, but it encourages us to pursue the fantasy, and this is a huge disappointment.

I may be an extreme case. My views may not reflect the views of other women of my generation. Maybe I'm just a spoiled middle class girl, a career and who now changed her mind? I think not. This month, the General Household Survey showed that the number of unmarried women under age 50 more than doubled over the past 30 years. And, at the age of 30 years, one in five of them "freemales", which chose independence over her husband and family, went through a broken cohabitation.

I would argue that women's libbers the sixties and seventies put careerism at the forefront of violating the traditional role of women under their Martens Doc. I want a more balanced view of femininity were available to me. I want to be a housewife or mother was not a toxic idea of ​​middle class liberals of the past.

An increasing number of my friends feminist interrupt their careers for love and children and baking. I would like to have children a decade ago, when the time was on my side, but the problem is not so long as the mentality. I made a conscious decision not to have a serious relationship because I thought I was all the time in the world. Many of my friends did the same thing. It's about understanding what's important in life, and from what I see and feel the love relationship and they bring more happiness than can ever work.

Natasha Hidvegi, 37, left his job as a surgeon to care for her son. "I found it impossible to be a good surgeon and a good mother. Although this was a terrible decision, I do not regret it."

I thought that men would be independent, strong woman, but (in general), they do not seem to. Men are programmed, as well as their women are soft and feminine. It's not their fault - it's in the genes. Holly Kendrick, 34, who has a high status work in the theater, agrees: "Men tend to worry, if you work as hard as them." That's why many of my friends are still alone. The truth, however, is not that people did not accept women today - women who never questions her right alpha for the same work, fun and sexual satisfaction, as they are - but that women, too. I feel enormous pressure from other women of my generation who have partners and children to join their club. In their eyes I'm not a pioneer, but a failure. My friend Rita Arnold, 36, works in marketing. "These are not people who judge me for being a careerist. That other woman. Claws come out."

This leaves me sick to the stomach. We give each other, but there is worse than betrayal. I failed in my own eyes. Somewhere inside hiding a woman I can not control, and she in the kitchen with a baby on her hip, and pastry in hand, staring me down. She said: "This is happiness, this is what it is all about." This instinct, which makes me a woman, instinct, which I can not ignore, even if he wished.

Felicity Wren, 36, is an actress who has yet to find Mr. Right. "I feel pressure, but only from myself, how I have no normal life. Most people do not care."

If I had an understanding of my mind ten years ago I would have demoted my letter (and hedonism) and pursued with vigor. There are many people and even a marriage proposal, but I would not abandon his dream.

I talked to the girls, who were the subject of my game Paradise Syndrome in 1999. Sas Taylor, 38, single and childless, runs his own company PR: «In my twentieth, I felt like I was invincible," she says. "Now I'd like to do things differently. I think I'm afraid of men because I am so capable. I have a business success, but it does not make you happy "Nicky P, 35, and one that works in the music industry, and adds:". All this was playing at that time. Now, I panic. Nobody told me that having fun is not as fun as I thought. "

As I write this I am sad, as if the feminist principles that my mom brought me to present to the basket. I gave femininity? No, I am revealing the shameful truth. Women are often the worst enemies of feminism because of our genetic makeup. We only have a finite amount of time for the mother and when the clock starts ticking, we will not give up our strength and jump into bed with those who have left, forgetting to say when, and PowerPoint presentations in favor of the Mamas & Papas buggy and ovulation diaries. Not all women want children, but I defy any woman to say she does not want to amorous relationships. I wish I had advice I give my 21-year-old sister: if you find a great guy, do not be afraid to settle down and have children, because there is nothing to lose, you can not do later on (in addition to having children).

In the future I hope that there could be a better understanding of women, women. Over the past 25 years have been confusing and I feel like I was caught in the crossfire. As women, we must accept each other, not only assessing "success". I've always felt enormous pressure to be successful, to show people that I am their equal. What a waste of time. A wife and mother should be given parity with the careerist role in the minds of feminists.

My mother had a young child and brilliantly juggled a career as a director and parents. She was part of a generation that overlap that of feminist values, but had children early. She had no job opportunities my generation, it was to make sacrifices and take smaller jobs to be parents in the evenings. Choice and career is vital, of course, but they do not have to be ruthless. I love being a writer, and still is my dream, but now I face the facts. The thing that made me feel better in life love with my ex-boyfriend and the thing that makes me feel more centered now in the country with children and dogs, and yes, maybe in the kitchen.