Gentlemen,

The reaction against feminism officially began from their own ranks.

It started as just a few drops leaking through the dam.

But now it's starting to look like a trickle.

The latest evidence to support this comes from the self-proclaimed feminist and writer Anna Pasternak.

She apparently threw in the towel on her "in control" of feminist lifestyle, finally, after the realization that being a lonely, elderly, hard and masculine woman really sucks.

She wrote a detailed article about the attempt to restore her femininity back.

And you'll also notice a very prominent link to the Russian women there.

As much as I applaud her cautious article, which casts a shadow on Feminism I'm still confident that this lady was a little late to the party and will have an extremely difficult time trying to find her "feminine soul."

(The great irony is that "Anna Pasternak" very Russian name, to begin with.)

The odds against her, but I still sincerely wish her good luck and best wishes.

Another thing ..

After you finish reading her article below, you can take a moment to return to the previous post I wrote on this same subject.

    Fast track to femininity:

    Why competing with men has left women in isolation from their feminine side

    Anna Pasternak

    Recently, media have been awash with articles suggesting that career women to a relationship that garlic as a vampire - the kiss of death.

    We can not sustain meaningful unions, apparently because people are intimidated by our intellect, threatened by our higher earning potential and turned off by our management, capable, powerful personalities.

    Although it was my personal experience - I was on my father to my daughter (now nearly five) three years ago when I was a survivor above - I think the problem is much deeper.

    It's more psychological than sociological.

    The problem, in my opinion, not so much with career women per se, but that women are increasingly out of balance with each other and, therefore, with the men. I know that I am.

    In the past three years to be one, I was on a handful of dates.

    Two years ago I went to dinner with a doctor who told me that I have not been in touch with my femininity 'as I' did not flirt or wear much makeup.

    His diagnosis also included the undeniable fact that I was in "dire need of affection.

    The last straw came four months ago, when I had dinner with a successful, high-profile entrepreneur who literally screamed at me that I was "so in the management of it was scary," - even though he come back when I dropped my head on my plate and started sobbing.

    In addition to being hurt, I was shocked and outraged.
    What I think was the knighthood of modern man?

    But later, I grudgingly reasoned, maybe it was a moment - what has become of my femininity?

    Difficulties for many of today's career women is that in order to compete with men, we turned to them.

    We have worked ourselves to death to win the career ladder, but in the process, we have trampled our core femininity into the ground.

    mom juggling work and children

    De-feminising: Juggling work, kids and all the trimming of life may leave women little time for yourself

    These days, as a single parent and sole breadwinner, I often feel more masculine than feminine.

    Working full-time, which makes every decision, paying every bill, driving myself everywhere, ticket booking on holidays, dragging a Christmas tree in - all this completely de-feminising.

    My friend Sophie, 46, who runs his company designs and a single mother with two boys aged nine and 11, agrees.

    She was alone in the six years since her husband left her for another woman.

    Blonde, attractive and kind, she was not on a date since he left.

    "I do not quite know how to be a woman anymore," she says. "Because I run my business, my house, and make all the decisions about the boys, I feel totally unfeminine.

    "I'm afraid of dating, as I have no idea how to behave.

    "I would like a partner, but I feel unattractive, untrusting, unsexy and completely alone.

    This, of course, are many of us.

    We sincerely believe that if we worked, we could have all this and more.

    And yet many of us were lonely, exhausted and heartbroken, with far less than what we expected.

    According to the report Mintel, 39 percent of the adult population is one - it's 19 million people - and it is expected to rise to 41 percent by 2011.

    It is clear that men and women are increasingly out of sync, and the key may be in the process of learning to re-balance ourselves as women and recover our essential softness.

    So I started a mental warehouse to see if I could quickly trace of femininity.

    First, the consultant stylist Kira Jolliffe, who manages the company "Wardrobe Woman, praised my closet.

    Once she got over the shock of how little clothing I had, she immediately sussed, I compartmentalise "my wardrobe.

    I live in jeans and shirts to school to write and work wear is better top to the meetings and a couple of dresses for the exit.

    But, as I rarely go more elegant clothes hardly get worn.

    She was correct in saying that I'm trying to bring my womanhood on this occasion, in contrast to the feminine for any occasion.

    My homework was to confuse my wardrobe, ditch my beloved chunky loafers and not save smarter clothes for some mythical special occasion.

    "Femininity about the inner experience of themselves and the clothes look around," she explained.

    "But your clothes can be a tool to remind you about it; ways to basically who you are.

    "It has nothing to do with Showing cleavage, for example, there's nothing less sexy than enforced femininity. Femininity is all about how relaxed with yourself."

    The problem for career women, according to Jolliffe, is that in the corporate world, women often use to dress as armor.

    They are to do their hair and makeup, and then it becomes harder to cancel your reservation as sartorially and emotionally, to date.

    "But to equate femininity with floral and chiffon is childish and simplistic," she warned.

    "To suddenly wear light tops in the office smells like trying too hard.

    "Jokers, for example, are the antithesis of femininity because they smell of desperation. Invention is the least sexy thing. Femininity of authenticity."

    After weeks of trying, my feminine ante wear shoes better and adding decorations and pretty top, I understand why Jolliffe insisted: ". If it feels false, do not do it"

    I spent the first day staggering around in a little skirt and heels, feeling ridiculous considering my life in the country.

    "Sexuality about getting the balance between male and female in a big way and trust," she said.

    "It's about soignee, not overdone. We are talking about vulnerable and empathetic without being a victim.

    "But you have to be realistic about your sexual identity because being sexual is not necessarily feminine.

    "My advice to career women get into the habit of rubbing really expensive body cream in after a bath.

    "It's amazing how being at one with your body puts you more instinctively in connection with your physical self-esteem.

    The most valuable lesson that I got to wear the clothes I like, instead of saving them for the best.

    Interestingly, I've had more comments on my appearance lately. I'm starting to see that femininity, like a flower. Its water, paying attention, and it will bloom.

    Next, I went to the well-known cosmetic surgeon Dr Jean-Louis Sebagh.

    Responsible for some of the most beautiful people in the world, including Cindy Crawford, he was nicknamed King of Botox.

    He had just returned from Russia where he participated in a documentary film on women and femininity.

    "Russian women do not have that hardness of women in England and America," he said.

    "They get their men because they are very feminine and they listen to their people, but they are not regressive. They managed to hold on old-fashioned prettiness.

    "Unlike most women I see in Europe have become warriors. They are bold and aggressive.

    "They see relationships as business transactions, and they are dating the same way they climb the corporate ladder, making them look and think hard.

    So it can help feminise woman?

    "My job is to make a woman look attractive to a man, but I can not change its character.

    "I can soften her looks, but I can not get a woman in connection with its soft side.

    But how do we do?

    "I think that it's hard to be a woman today," he adds.

    "Our society is very tough, and if you want to enjoy the materialism, then you lose your soul.

    "If women can stay away from their corporate brains, then they can tune into this softness and core values.

    It is interesting that Dr Sebagh says that his happy customers in the 50's and 60's.

    "They are aware of the fact that the issues in their lives. They want people to communicate, not a lifestyle choice.

    "They have souls and are far more reliable.

    "Ironically, I believe that the credit crunch will force more women to the authenticity, because they can no longer pretend that they are rich or successful.

    "How can you find yourself if you are fake and pretending to be someone that you do not?

    Some might consider helping hand of Dr. Sebagh in relation to the appearance of softness fake in itself.

    However, when he ran Botox for me, the results were fantastic.

    Far from looking taut or frozen, I looked like me, only less worn and haggard. I look fresher - and because I look softer, I feel softer.

    However, as Kira Jolliffe and Dr Sebagh concur, the appearance of femininity is meaningless without the inner experience of it.

    Psychologist Jeff Allen, the founder of the Psychology of Vision, who coaches for relationships and business success, said: "Independent women look like they are tough and have their acts together, which is attractive, but in fact they are well protected, because they do not want to get pain or be vulnerable.

    "But to be feminine, at some level you have to be open.

    "Openness allows connection, intuition and compassion is a feminine gifts.

    So how do we open ourselves up to our feminine energy, especially if we want to survive career-wise in a man's world?

    "The feminine principle to permit things to unfold and happen, do not always intervene.

    "Career women think that they should be under control to make it happen, but if they stop, and then in some emotional intelligence and empathy, which makes them better problem-solvers.

    According to Allen, you can not have true success or a successful relationship without the balance of male and female: "The reason career women feel lonely in themselves and often have a deep sense of failure because they do not relate to their hearts.

    "I'm not saying that career women have to throw everything away, but if they are connected to the things that really matter to them if they start to appreciate little beautiful things every day - literally stop and smell of roses - that they should be The offer is pretty deep.

    Allen also says we should stop competing with men, especially in relationships, as competition is totally destructive.

    Investigation of this article, I feel that I have been a subtle but seismic shift.

    I see that being a woman on the resolution itself, getting more and control less.

    Two days ago, I went to dinner with another man, and the first time in many years, I looked more feminine, acted more feminine, and most importantly, I felt more feminine.

    Not in the smug way, but with a deep understanding of what an opportunity to show the vulnerability of women is not a weakness but a sign of strength a woman.