I must admit that getting engaged to a woman is unbelievable really helps you get some perspective.

Your world view changes noticeably, and you begin to recognize more ..

What is real in my life ..

.. And what is not.

Let me explain.

The other day I had lunch in one of my favorite places, and had the opportunity to leaf through a magazine a luxury car, which was laid on the table.

I certainly can appreciate the latest and greatest when it comes to technology, design and style. This is especially true with any number of vehicles, which retails at sixty thousand dollars or more.

Now you might think that this "appreciation automotive detail" is the central message that all car manufacturers want to convey to you.

However, on closer examination these ads, I began to think that being hit from the "German Engineering" or "Japanese design is not quite what these marketing pitches are everything.

Because, although my eyes are always drawn to the sleek and shiny looking car, which are carefully displayed in these photos ..

I always find myself taking a closer look at the sleek and sexy women who always seem to be blowing in these ads, but ..

Now it is clear that sex to sell a product as old as time itself, and that the "hidden" message for any potential buyer is quite clear ...

Get the car is amazing if you want to get amazing girl ..

(.. And with good credit you can take me / us home!)

Now when this message appears in all its blunt and brutal glory ..

I openly wonder if this type of "bait" really ever was a success for everyone in the long run from the beginning.

I mean think about it ..

    * What kind of "quality" girl and every man in the end, if it were true?

    * What kind of "Man" will be consciously aware of this game, but still use this method as a tool for searching for women?

Ok, let's give every guy in the benefit of the doubt and let's not pretend that he does not get hot car for girls, but really wants to have a great driving experience, not.

Do not get me wrong ..

I am one who loves a good driving experience like no other, and I had a lot of great experience behind the wheel of some of the actual performance of beauty.

But in the end no matter how much any of us "love our Ride" ..

The car is not something you can sleep with ..

Were not we meant to sleep with any of the millions of other products that also have beautiful girls tossing them too ..

Now I am again, as high quality as any other guy.

But no matter how memorable of any of these products ..

How can experience in the use of any product or compete with the experience of falling in love with a beautiful woman.

And that brings me to my next point ..

For most of us get to the point where we can actually experience true love ...

H R D

Yes .. Very hard ..

Because, on one hand ..

We instinctively know that the discovery of true love a single event in our existence which has no analogues ..

But on the other hand ..

We also know that lack of love in our lives can manifest itself in the most painful ways of life of solitude spiritual starvation, collapse or even death.

Thus, because the problem of finding love sooo big ...

And the risk is not to find love and sooo GREAT ..

Many people try to use this risk by adopting a materialistic lifestyle in order to complete denial and avoid the harsh reality of how difficult it is to find love, really ..

This is because in the absence of love is so tempting for many people to try to fill the emptiness they feel with the material things in life along with all the status and ego they believe will provide for them.

So many guys (and, of course, women too) act like little crabs are vulnerable sea without a shell to hide I mention this because I can easily see how desperate they are to try to hide their emotional nakedness thing.

    * They believe that more material leads to a better "sense of dignity."

    * They believe that people actually experience the stuff they brag about.

    * And they hope that if they show enough of the material, someone has actually come along and "love" them for it.

Now we've all been through this stage in varying degrees, but what we need to understand that instead of moving people closer to the ultimate goal of finding love ..

This belief is actually pushing them much further.

I believe this is a little like spending all their money on various insurance policies, and then not having enough left to feed, clothing or even shelter themselves.

The adoption of the materialistic way of life does not cause a person to have a real loving woman beside him.

It just makes it much harder to do.

    * It is more difficult because any quality women in Russia could feel the man as a mile and will run like hell away from him. (They will do this because they do not want to end up as just another commodity trophy on his bookshelf rapidly collecting dust.)

    * It is more difficult, because only girls are human, as it will attract are whores who are just looking for a "free meal ticket" or "good time". These women will only push him to buy more stuff for them .. And as soon as it stops (they both know that) it will be tossed like garbage yesterday.

    * It is more difficult, because the more people involved in material Lifestyle more he commits his or her identity to him. And it becomes much harder for him to find the courage and fortitude to ever change it no matter how much she will not be able to ..

So you can say Vicious Cycle?

Or to put it more bluntly ..

If I had to deal with such a gentleman with such an attitude I would just tell him ..

"Good luck buddy .. You will need a lot .."

So if we understand that finding love is very difficult that decision all this?

Well, I think the secret formula for any solution ..

Your faith + Actions you combine with him.

Before we proceed, let's start with any negative beliefs that have to be dropped in the first place.

    * Drop any conviction that the search for love depends on chance or luck.

    * Drop any conviction, finding love can be achieved as a leisurely pastime. (This is because the man upstairs does not deliver to take out their souls at a time as any of us sit on our ass watching TV commercials and think about the next cool stuff we can buy for yourself.)

    * But most of all .. Drop any belief that you can not have true love.

Now let's talk about the positive persuasion pickup.

    * Successfully find love depends on how emotionally and mentally prepared you are to it .. (That is, honesty and humility)

    * Successfully find love depends on positioning themselves correctly with your attitude and your location.

    * But most of all .. Successfully find love depends on hard work.

And hard work is simply "action" side of the Secret Formula.

No one should ever doubt how much work is involved in trying to find love halfway around the world, unlike your own neighborhood.

(But then again, no one should ever doubt that this is the best way to go either ..)

When I look back on everything that I need to do before I was able to have such a true and loving woman in my life ..

I understand that there was a helluva lot of training, patience and effort.

And I realized that this process is no different, we decided to go out and build your own house from scratch.

This is because the ATTITUDE you start from the beginning determines if you build your foundation on something hard, like granite ..

.. Or on quicksand.

And unfortunately, I've seen a lot of guys who believe that building on Quicksand is actually "good" label for use ..

This is a "good" well ..

But I'm sure it's not "good" in the way these guys were expecting.

(Watch for Part 2)